Living Between Languages and Cultures: Cross-Cultural Identity and Learning in Bilingual Couples

Abstract

Most existing research looks at language learning in classrooms or casual social settings; however, globalization has made transnational couples increasingly common, and there is a paucity of research on how language skills develop in the deep, daily interactions of an intimate partnership. Instead of viewing language learning as just an individual skill, the present study examines how being in love and building a life together affects how partners communicate, focusing on how emotional closeness and shared experiences shape how meaning is negotiated and identities are viewed. A qualitative documentary method was used to analyze the social media videos of three bilingual couples over a decade, and narrative analysis offers insights into how they tell the story of their relationship to examine moments where they switch languages, correct each other, or handle cultural conflicts. This can help define ‘relational’ style of language learning Theoretically, this study builds on the input–interaction–output model, motivation theories, and acculturation frameworks. The findings suggest that, when couples work through language barriers together, they develop a unique kind of intercultural awareness. This process goes beyond learning vocabulary: It fosters a more open cosmopolitan identity that is deeply rooted in lives together.